I RESOLVE

I've made up my mind...

As we approach the midway point of the 2012 calender year, I felt it necessary to prompt a reassessment of any goals, resolutions and/or aspirations that were made at the beginning of the year.  We have a tendency to get busy with life or get too tired when challenges arise which normally forces us to put any positive changes we'd like to make on hold.  Well, I'm here to remind and rejuvenate any of those resolutions so that you can make the latter part of the year better than the former.  Here we go...

I Resolve....

I will make positive changes to my personality/character: This resolution is normally the hardest because we don't like to look within ourselves... people do that enough for us.  Because the world is so judgmental it is often increasingly difficult to then judge ourselves.  But I encourage you to do it, if necessary.  If you are willing to take a healthy critical eye to yourself and resolve to make positive changes, you'll be a better person for it.  I personally have been working on the manner in which I talk to people.  I struggle with tone and volume, especially when I'm excited and/or upset, and as I step into a new season of my life, I have resolved to make changes as I want to be known for the CONTENT that comes out of my mouth, not HOW it comes out of my mouth.  Also, I have resolved to not let how I feel determine my day.  Even if I'm tried or frustrated, I have resolved to be at peace and joyful.

I will forgive and let it go:  This is a VERY important one because any relationship that you are invested in, whether it is with family, friends or a partner, leaves you open to getting hurt or disappointed.  It is inevitable.  Similarly to how it is inevitable that you will also hurt and disappoint others.  No one is perfect and we ALL make mistakes.  As hard as we try to be the best we can be, we have to acknowledge that our best isn't necessarily the same 'best' that your friend, family or partner sees... and vice versa.  We have to treat people as we want to be treated, 'judge' people by the same standard we 'judge' ourselves and believe the best in others.  Its easy to be critical and begrudging to others... but how do you like it when people do it to you?

I will Live on Purpose:  Bishop T.D. Jakes has a phenomenal CD/DVD teaching resource available on his website www.tdjakes.org that encourages you to do just that: Live on Purpose.  To wake up everyday like you mean it.  To deal with people everyday like Jesus is coming by nightfall.  Live you life depends solely on your goals, dreams and aspirations.  Challenges will arise, road blocks will form and doubts will surface... but don't give up.  Focus on what you have been called to do (that nagging that remains consistent in your heart) and keep moving forward.  

I will seek His Kingdom FIRST(and His Righteousness)... and ALL good things will be added unto me (Matthew 6:33): I used to struggle with this scripture as I didn't quite understand where His Kingdom was.  My inexperience (and ignorance) had me looking for the Kingdom in the physical realm and brought me to a place of resentment and dissatisfaction with the church and other 'religious' entities.  I couldn't feel the connection.  I finally came to understand, by God's grace and wisdom, that the Kingdom is in me and if I want to reach my full potential and purpose in life, I had to start there.  In essence, seeking the Kingdom and His Righteousness means striving to be Christ-like, standing on His Word, trusting in Him completely and being a reflection of His joy, peace, mercy, forgiveness, grace and love.  This is what it means to seek the Kingdom.  And through striving and accomplishing such Righteousness, it will then shine through in everything you do... how you interact with your family, your friends, co-workers, neighbours, ENEMIES, in your business, your dreams and aspirations.  This is the foundation of 'all the good things' that will be added unto you.  Therefore, if you feel that you are not receiving, enjoying or obtaining 'all the good things', reassess who, what and how you are 'seeking the Kingdom' and whether you are willing to make the necessary changes IN YOU.

Living a life for Christ is a steadfast business.  It is not easy... unless you are willing to let go of yourself and the world.  It is only difficult when you make it difficult by trying to live in both worlds... being a Christian but harbouring unforgiveness, wanting to get but rarely giving, wanting love but not receiving love from the Creator.  We have to resolve to do better because we know better.  

Be Blessed TO DO BETTER

THE BEATITUDES

 

Blessed are the poor in spirit, 

for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. 

Blessed are they who mourn, 

for they shall be comforted. 

Blessed are the meek, 

for they shall inherit the earth. 

Blessed are they who hunger and thirst for righteousness, 

for they shall be satisfied. 

Blessed are the merciful, 

for they shall obtain mercy. 

Blessed are the pure of heart, 

for they shall see God. 

Blessed are the peacemakers, 

for they shall be called children of God. 

Blessed are they who are persecuted for the sake of righteousness, 

for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

- Matthew 5:3-10

Bigger than You

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.

- Romans 8:28

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I hope that every one had a great Mother's Day and/or made every Mother around you feel special yesterday but I have to be honest... I purposely sent his e-mail out 'late' because I wanted to make a point.  Although it is nice to have special days to celebrate Mother's, Father's, love, giving etc. etc. etc. we should be careful not to let those days define us.  Whether we have specified days, holidays or not should not determine how we feel about ourselves or how we act towards others.  Love, giving and making other's feel special should not be limited to a day.  Similarly, loving, giving and feeling special within shouldn't be limited to a day.

I find that sometimes people get 'caught up' in the day and make it another point of contention or bitterness towards their significant others, their children, friends and family because they either didn't acknowledge the day or do what would have been satisfying.  But I'm here to set the record straight... BEING LOVED, GIVING AND BEING LOVING IS BIGGER THAN YOU.  I would almost go as far as to say that getting so caught up with the day to even see that means that you have completely missed the essence of life and are bordering on being self-centered.  

Jesus wasn't born so that we could celebrate Christmas.  He was born because it was His purpose on Earth.  Jesus didn't die so we could have Easter and a couple days off of work.  He was tortured, endured much and died so that we might live.  We don't have children so that when Mother's Day comes around we can be showered with gifts and feel special.  We should feel special everyday and feel honoured EVERYDAY that God chose us to bring this particular person into the world for His purpose (I'm personally still working on embracing these feelings).  We don't get married so everyone can 'goo goo and ga ga' over us or so that our husband's can (hopefully) remember the day, spoil us and give us gifts to show off at work.  And whether you want to believe me or not, our birthday's are much to be celebrated and remembered but not so much that we can throw parties and spend ridiculous amounts of money just to commemorate the day, but rather to thank God for taking us through another year and asking how we can do better next year and WHAT we can do to make it a better year for ourselves and those around us.  Life is bigger that what we can get - physically, emotionally and mentally - from others.  It's all bigger than that.

We have a purpose on this earth and I'm personally working on the fact that my purpose is bigger than the face that I see in the mirror everyday.  I'm a wife, a mother, a child, a friend, a cousin and an auntie.  My purpose on this earth far exceeds those roles because they don't define me.  My purpose on earth defines me.  I'm writing this to those who may have felt a bit disappointed this Mother's Day for whatever the reason - children are acting crazy, didn't get any gifts, lost a child, didn't do anything special or don't have any much wanted children to celebrate.  It's bigger than you  To the childless-Mother - whether you have a child of your own or not does not define you.  The love you give to those around you, big and small, is what defines you.  Children of God have been adopted into His family.  Giving birth is a privilege and a blessing but (I believe) loving and nurturing someone who you didn't give birth to is greater.  To the neglected Mother - 'neglect' is defined by you.  If you allow what others don't do for you create feelings of neglect, it's because you allowed it.  Do something for others.  Do something for yourself.  Either way, it's bigger than you.  And last, but not least, to the single Mother's - having a husband does not define you and should not make make Mother's Day feel 'more' special because there are plenty of wives out there that may have had the same type of day that you did.  My point is this... don't let society, your family, your partner or even your thoughts define you.  LIFE IS BIGGER THAN YOU.

Find your purpose and focus on that.  If your purpose is to raise children, then do it to the best of your ability, whether they act right or not.  If your purpose is not to raise your own children, find a child that needs mentoring, love and 'raise' them.  If your purpose is to speak life into those who have lost hope, then put your cares aside and reach out to those in need.  God will take care of you.  Let's not be so self-centered... always wondering and pining over what others can do for us.  Our purpose is bigger.  Our lives have been given to us to do more, to be bigger than the face we see in the mirror.  Make the decision to be bigger than YOU.   

Be Blessed in FINDING YOUR PURPOSE

He who covers over an offense promotes love, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends. - Proverbs 17:9

11 In him we have obtained an inheritance, having been predestined according to the purpose of him who works all things according to the counsel of his will, 12 so that we who were the first to hope in Christ might be to the praise of his glory. - Ephesians 1:11-12 

Are you kidding me?

Moreover [let us also be full of joy now!] let us exult and triumph in our troubles and rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that pressure and affliction and hardship produce patient and unswerving endurance.  ⁴ And endurance (fortitude) develops maturity of character (approved faith and tried integrity). And character [of this sort] produces [the habit of] joyful and confident hope of eternal salvation.

⁵ Such hope never disappoints or deludes or shames us, for God’s love has been poured out in our hearts through the Holy Spirit Who has been given to us.

Romans 5:3-5 AMP

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I got the above passage one day while I was watching Pastor Joyce Meyer and I decided to look it  up and read it over a few times.  And that was my response to it... "Are you kidding me!?!"  God and I often have those types of conversations because sometimes I feel like God must be kidding when he sends messages to me through people, television shows, movies and even my kids.  And what's worse is that they are ALWAYS convicting my current state or mind set.  In this particular situation, I was being convicted about my mind set.

Often times when we go through our trials and tribulations, it is so much easier to be down, stay somber, wallow in misery and feed into self-pity.  I personally believe it's our way of telling the world we are not happy.    Especially since some people (particularly men) are clueless so, of course, women are famous for this 'act'.  But why?  What's the point really?  Ruining the day, the moments, the weeks... for what?  They [the people around you] probably still won't catch on and even when they do, you've still wasted time.  And what are they supposed to do about it?  Fix it?  And if they don't... are you going to be sad all of your life?  Further, what did you gain from being sad or depressed about the situation?  Insight?  Wisdom?  A solution?  Change?  REAL TALK - Acting in this manner to get your own way is manipulative and shows a lack of maturity mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

The fact of the matter is this... if we choose to enter and go through our trials with grace, "rejoicing in our sufferings", we will be better for it as "pressure and affliction produces patient and unswerving endurance."  Which then "develops maturity of character" and ultimately "[the habit of] joyful and confident hope of eternal salvation".  In other words... TRIBULATION = PATIENCE = EXPERIENCE = HOPE.  This is important because "Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life."  So, if we give in to our emotions, feelings and flesh before we gain the patience and experience, our hearts will be "sick" with lack of hope, which can then personifies into bitterness, unforgiveness, anger, more depression, anxiety etc. etc.

These are the thoughts of the day, not to convict you (well maybe a little) but to encourage and inspire you (and me) to keep pressing forward.  To use wisdom and stand on faith.  God has a plan and it is greater than our plans, regardless of what we THINK is best for ourselves.  By confronting your tribulations with grace, you are slapping the devil in the face and saying "is that all you got?"  Because you need to know that in the end, you are victorious.   But ONLY if you do it God's way.  Me, of all people, DO NOT like feeling out of control.  And that's what the devil plays on every time in my life.  But really, God just allows chaos to happen so that my stubborn-self will let go of the "control" of the situation (that I never had to begin with) and Let Him do my bidding.  

I remember one time I was talking to my "second" mom and I told her that I need to pray for patience because I don't have any and she said "NO! don't do that!  Do you know what you just asked for???"  Well, I know now.  But it's all good.  I will step over this, through this and on this with grace so I can get the experience and finally hope because I KNOW better days are ahead :)  The heart will only get sick if you allow it too.  Stand on His Word.  Stand by Faith.

Be Blessed in TRIUMPHING OVER YOUR TROUBLES

33 I have told you these things, so that in Me you may have [perfect] peace and confidence. In the world you have tribulation and trials and distress and frustration; but be of good cheer [take courage; be confident, certain, undaunted]! For I have overcome the world. [I have deprived it of power to harm you and have conquered it for you.] - John 16:33 AMP

Getting off the Roller-coaster

14If you put sin out of your hand and far away from you and let not evil dwell in your tents;
    15Then can you lift up your face to Him without stain [of sin, and unashamed]; yes, you shall be steadfast and secure; you shall not fear.

  16For you shall forget your misery; you shall remember it as waters that pass away.

Job 11:14-16 AMP

Life is all about choices.  God blessed us with the free will to make how ever many choices we need to make throughout the day and through out our life.  The problem with choices is that, more times than not, they don't only affect us.  They affect everyone around us.  And based on our choices, there will always be a consequence... good or bad.  These are facts.  This doesn't mean that we have to be scared or indecisive about making choices, we just need to pray, trust God, weigh them carefully and try our best to make the choices that is best for all of those involved.

I think the biggest difficulty with making choices is sticking to them.  Especially when the ripple effect can be overwhelming.  And then, you may be required to make another choice.  But the key is that whatever choice (or re-choice) you choose, you have to stick with it.  It can be exhausting to you and those around you if your choices become a roller-coaster - one minute you're up, the next minute you're down.  One minute you're in, the next minute you're out.  It's hard, I know to 'stick to your guns', especially when it comes to family and matters of the heart.  But either way, it has to be done.

I was watching a Bishop T.D. Jakes sermon on day entitled "Sleeping Giants" and he made a point - "stability is a ministry".  When we see the word "ministry" we have a tendency to think of church, events, sermons etc. but in fact, whatever it is that you have been blessed to do can be considered a ministry ie. blessing the less fortunate, writing books, counselling, preaching, photography, motivational speaking, cooking etc.  But it has to be stable.  Your family doesn't need you here one minute and gone the next, your children don't need you supportive one minute then condescending the next, your spouse doesn't need you committed one minute then uncommitted the next, your job doesn't need you productive one minute then unproductive the next.  God doesn't need you trusting him one minute then depending on yourself the next.  Stability is a ministry.

Life is already frantic enough to continually be adding more dips and hills.  Stability in and of itself can bring peace to your day.  Being never-changing, regardless of the circumstances.  It's challenging, I know, because life can come at you fast, in many different directions ALL at once.  But my point is, if you make the choice beforehand, and stick to it once the choice is challenged, I believe that it will eventually eliminate the exaggerated stress, anxiety and panic because you are remaining steadfast.  Think about it, if your choices are made based on everything going on around you, what control do you have?  The only person in life you can control in life is yourself.  And if you give that away, what do you have?  A roller-coaster of emotions, panic attacks, joy, misery, peace and chaos.  It's time to tell yourself "I'm too grown to be riding this ride."  Stability is a ministry.  It's time to start ministering to yourself.  Restoring your soul.  Embracing peace.  And I will be doing the same.

Be Blessed in GETTING OFF THE ROLLER-COASTER

 

Read JOSHUA 23

5The Lord your God will thrust them out from before you and drive them out of your sight, and you shall possess their land, as the Lord your God promised you. 6 So be very courageous and steadfast to keep and do all that is written in the Book of the Law of Moses, turning not aside from it to the right hand or the left, 7 That you may not mix with these nations that remain among you, or make mention of the names of their gods or swear by them or serve them or bow down to them. 8 But cling to the Lord your God as you have done to this day. 9 For the Lord has driven out from before you great and strong nations; and as for you, no man has been able to withstand you to this day. 10 One man of you shall put to flight a thousand, for it is the Lord your God Who fights for you, as He promised you. - Joshua 23:5-10 AMP

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