14If you put sin out of your hand and far away from you and let not evil dwell in your tents;
15Then can you lift up your face to Him without stain [of sin, and unashamed]; yes, you shall be steadfast and secure; you shall not fear.
16For you shall forget your misery; you shall remember it as waters that pass away.
Job 11:14-16 AMP
Life is all about choices. God blessed us with the free will to make how ever many choices we need to make throughout the day and through out our life. The problem with choices is that, more times than not, they don't only affect us. They affect everyone around us. And based on our choices, there will always be a consequence... good or bad. These are facts. This doesn't mean that we have to be scared or indecisive about making choices, we just need to pray, trust God, weigh them carefully and try our best to make the choices that is best for all of those involved.
I think the biggest difficulty with making choices is sticking to them. Especially when the ripple effect can be overwhelming. And then, you may be required to make another choice. But the key is that whatever choice (or re-choice) you choose, you have to stick with it. It can be exhausting to you and those around you if your choices become a roller-coaster - one minute you're up, the next minute you're down. One minute you're in, the next minute you're out. It's hard, I know to 'stick to your guns', especially when it comes to family and matters of the heart. But either way, it has to be done.
I was watching a Bishop T.D. Jakes sermon on day entitled "Sleeping Giants" and he made a point - "stability is a ministry". When we see the word "ministry" we have a tendency to think of church, events, sermons etc. but in fact, whatever it is that you have been blessed to do can be considered a ministry ie. blessing the less fortunate, writing books, counselling, preaching, photography, motivational speaking, cooking etc. But it has to be stable. Your family doesn't need you here one minute and gone the next, your children don't need you supportive one minute then condescending the next, your spouse doesn't need you committed one minute then uncommitted the next, your job doesn't need you productive one minute then unproductive the next. God doesn't need you trusting him one minute then depending on yourself the next. Stability is a ministry.
Life is already frantic enough to continually be adding more dips and hills. Stability in and of itself can bring peace to your day. Being never-changing, regardless of the circumstances. It's challenging, I know, because life can come at you fast, in many different directions ALL at once. But my point is, if you make the choice beforehand, and stick to it once the choice is challenged, I believe that it will eventually eliminate the exaggerated stress, anxiety and panic because you are remaining steadfast. Think about it, if your choices are made based on everything going on around you, what control do you have? The only person in life you can control in life is yourself. And if you give that away, what do you have? A roller-coaster of emotions, panic attacks, joy, misery, peace and chaos. It's time to tell yourself "I'm too grown to be riding this ride." Stability is a ministry. It's time to start ministering to yourself. Restoring your soul. Embracing peace. And I will be doing the same.
Be Blessed in GETTING OFF THE ROLLER-COASTER
