And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.
- Romans 8:28
I hope that every one had a great Mother's Day and/or made every Mother around you feel special yesterday but I have to be honest... I purposely sent his e-mail out 'late' because I wanted to make a point. Although it is nice to have special days to celebrate Mother's, Father's, love, giving etc. etc. etc. we should be careful not to let those days define us. Whether we have specified days, holidays or not should not determine how we feel about ourselves or how we act towards others. Love, giving and making other's feel special should not be limited to a day. Similarly, loving, giving and feeling special within shouldn't be limited to a day.
I find that sometimes people get 'caught up' in the day and make it another point of contention or bitterness towards their significant others, their children, friends and family because they either didn't acknowledge the day or do what would have been satisfying. But I'm here to set the record straight... BEING LOVED, GIVING AND BEING LOVING IS BIGGER THAN YOU. I would almost go as far as to say that getting so caught up with the day to even see that means that you have completely missed the essence of life and are bordering on being self-centered.
Jesus wasn't born so that we could celebrate Christmas. He was born because it was His purpose on Earth. Jesus didn't die so we could have Easter and a couple days off of work. He was tortured, endured much and died so that we might live. We don't have children so that when Mother's Day comes around we can be showered with gifts and feel special. We should feel special everyday and feel honoured EVERYDAY that God chose us to bring this particular person into the world for His purpose (I'm personally still working on embracing these feelings). We don't get married so everyone can 'goo goo and ga ga' over us or so that our husband's can (hopefully) remember the day, spoil us and give us gifts to show off at work. And whether you want to believe me or not, our birthday's are much to be celebrated and remembered but not so much that we can throw parties and spend ridiculous amounts of money just to commemorate the day, but rather to thank God for taking us through another year and asking how we can do better next year and WHAT we can do to make it a better year for ourselves and those around us. Life is bigger that what we can get - physically, emotionally and mentally - from others. It's all bigger than that.
We have a purpose on this earth and I'm personally working on the fact that my purpose is bigger than the face that I see in the mirror everyday. I'm a wife, a mother, a child, a friend, a cousin and an auntie. My purpose on this earth far exceeds those roles because they don't define me. My purpose on earth defines me. I'm writing this to those who may have felt a bit disappointed this Mother's Day for whatever the reason - children are acting crazy, didn't get any gifts, lost a child, didn't do anything special or don't have any much wanted children to celebrate. It's bigger than you To the childless-Mother - whether you have a child of your own or not does not define you. The love you give to those around you, big and small, is what defines you. Children of God have been adopted into His family. Giving birth is a privilege and a blessing but (I believe) loving and nurturing someone who you didn't give birth to is greater. To the neglected Mother - 'neglect' is defined by you. If you allow what others don't do for you create feelings of neglect, it's because you allowed it. Do something for others. Do something for yourself. Either way, it's bigger than you. And last, but not least, to the single Mother's - having a husband does not define you and should not make make Mother's Day feel 'more' special because there are plenty of wives out there that may have had the same type of day that you did. My point is this... don't let society, your family, your partner or even your thoughts define you. LIFE IS BIGGER THAN YOU.
Find your purpose and focus on that. If your purpose is to raise children, then do it to the best of your ability, whether they act right or not. If your purpose is not to raise your own children, find a child that needs mentoring, love and 'raise' them. If your purpose is to speak life into those who have lost hope, then put your cares aside and reach out to those in need. God will take care of you. Let's not be so self-centered... always wondering and pining over what others can do for us. Our purpose is bigger. Our lives have been given to us to do more, to be bigger than the face we see in the mirror. Make the decision to be bigger than YOU.
Be Blessed in FINDING YOUR PURPOSE
He who covers over an offense promotes love, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends. - Proverbs 17:9
11 In him we have obtained an inheritance, having been predestined according to the purpose of him who works all things according to the counsel of his will, 12 so that we who were the first to hope in Christ might be to the praise of his glory. - Ephesians 1:11-12
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